Birthdays

Birthdays are a tricky thing. I mean maybe to some people the answer is really obvious, but maybe not to everyone. I’ll admit that for a few years in my life I had difficulty celebrating my birthday, and I’m sure there’s a lot of people out there who wouldn’t understand why. I’ll tell you why…but it’s depressing. I didn’t have any friends, so I felt as if having a birthday party would emphasize the fact that no one cared about me, since no one would show up. Well not even that, I didn’t even have anyone to invite. But since then, I’ve worked hard to tell myself that I’m worthy of a birthday party. Everyone is. But now I’m almost worried that I’ve gone too far and now my expectations are too high. Where’s the middle ground? I’m always curious to see how my friends and their friends decide to celebrate their birthday. Some people go to a LOT of trouble planning, others wait until the last minute. For me, it’s really interesting to see how other people do it, because it shows what they think of themselves. Maybe I’m reading too much into it? Could it be true that the people who wait until the very last minute to make plans and invite friends just don’t know what they want in life? Does it mean that they’re lost and searching? Could it be true that the people who spend more than enough time planning take themselves too seriously and need to go with the flow? Are they unhappy with letting things unfold on their own?

My Boyfriend’s Difficulties in Relaying Information

My boyfriend has difficulty giving me details. And this makes it soo difficult if he is planning something for the both of us. He often leaves out details which he deems insignificant, yet they make all the different to me.

For example, he told me that his friend Jake is visiting from out of town. So I said, oh hey, a bunch of our friends are getting together for drinks on Saturday night, so invite him to join. Then my boyfriend invites Jake (and Jake’s wife). See, before the invitation was put out there, my boyfriend neglected to tell me that Jake’s wife was also in town. So now the two of them are invited to drinks on Saturday. Which isn’t a big deal, but it does change things right? If one person shows up and doesn’t know anyone else, then that one person is forced to engage with others and join in the conversation. But if a couple comes, who don’t know anyone else, they are more likely to talk to each other and not engage. The dynamic is different. Am I crazy?

The other issue is when my boyfriend says he talks about me to his boss or our mutual friends. He’ll tell me the vague idea about what he said, but then later I’ll find out a detail that he told someone about me, which I didn’t know they knew.

I’m writing this now thinking maybe I’m overreacting and controlling? It can’t be just me. Women like to know and need to know more details than men.

..Well according to this website

http://www.ronedmondson.com/2011/07/5-tips-when-communicating-with-men.html

More on My Boss

Generally, my boss is cool and friendly and we get along, so I really like her. But here are a couple other things that drive me crazy…

If she had suggestions on a report or a presentation, she used to call me and ask me to come into her office. No problem. Great. But lately, she has been coming into my office. Normally, this wouldn’t be a problem, but I share an office with four other people. That means there’s five people and five desks in one room. So when my boss comes in to give me corrections, the other people in my office can hear everything. Um so why doesn’t she notice that this is embarrassing for me?

The other thing is that I’ll send her drafts of reports and slides for presentations and calculations and whatever else so that she can look it over and give me suggestions. I’ll be sure to do this before we have a meeting. But more than once, I’ll show up at the meeting and she’ll say something like well it would be really helpful if you could include this. Um HELLOO?! that’s why I sent it to you beforehand, so you could tell me about it when I actually had time to do something about it….

Amazon Prime

So I’m one of those chicks who buys everything from Amazon. Come on, it’s so much easier to sit at home and browse all the options and buy what you want with a few clicks of the mouse. And with Amazon Prime, shipping is free, so it’s not costing you anything extra to order online. Super convenient. My only complaint is that the Prime “Free Two-Day Shipping” isn’t always two days- am I wrong? I went to order something today (Wednesday) and the item was marked Prime, but when I went to check out it said that I would receive the item on Monday, not Friday or Saturday. That doesn’t seem like a true two-day shipping if you ask me. And this isn’t the first time I’ve come across this either. I’ve ordered items that were Prime and then they arrived like four days later. But then other times, I’ve had items delivered on Sundays. So, I know what you’re thinking, I’m probably not taking into account non-business days, but that doesn’t seem to matter for other products. Some products I’ll order on a Friday, and they’ll show up Sunday. But today I ordered something on a Wednesday that won’t come until Monday? I really do love Amazon, but come on, stay true to your word!

The Cuckoo’s Calling by Robert Galbraith

I just finished reading The Cuckoo’s Calling by Robert Galbraith. Although Robert Galbraith doesn’t actually exist, the author is actually J. K. Rowling who used this name, and later it came out that it was her. Anyways it’s a murder mystery novel. However, I must admit that I didn’t like it, and I’ll explain why. I enjoy reading mysteries because as a read, more and more clues are revealed to the reader and I like to guess as to what actually happened. But this isn’t how The Cuckoo’s Calling was written. As I kept reading, more and more clues were revealed to the main character “Cormoran Strike” and NOT the reader. This was super frustrating because it was obvious that as it got closer to the end of the book, the main character was closer and closer to solving the mystery. But the reader wasn’t. I didn’t find out any clues or hints barely at all until the last few pages when whole true story finally spilled out. Personally, I prefer to read mystery novels that allow me to try to figure out what’s happened. Isn’t that the point of mystery novels? Disappointment from J. K. Rowling…

My Boss

So my boss likes to micromanage me. Everyone hates this. Whenever I write a report, it goes through at least two or three drafts. I’ll write the first draft, and then she’ll edit it and give me notes, and then I’ll send her the second draft. I feel like at this point, this is the logical place to stop editing and drafting. However, after I send her the second draft, she gives it back to me with even more notes. So annoying. And it’s her own fault, like if she has more comments, why didn’t she notice them the first time? The worst is when I change something because of the notes she gave me, and then she says to delete it or it doesn’t make sense, without even knowing that it was her who made me put that in. So frustrating.

The other thing is that she never thinks something is finished until I run it by other people in the company. Well she’s my boss, so shouldn’t she be confident enough to say when a report or some calculations are finished? She’s high enough at the company that we shouldn’t need others’ approval to call something “done”. She obviously doesn’t understand what this means to me, because I’m trying hard to please her but she doesn’t know what it is to please her, it has to come from someone else. It makes it pretty hard on me…

Beards

Why are beards in style now? Do girls love beards? Am I the only girl in the world who isn’t attracted to guys with beards? I just don’t understand. I think men look much more clean cut, professional, and mature when they’re are clean shaven. But maybe that’s the point. Maybe they don’t want to look clean cut, professional, and mature. But I definitely don’t understand that.

It’s actually a fact that women are instinctively more attracted to men who look like successful, professional men. This goes back to hunter/gatherer days. Women would want a man who is going to be her PROVIDER. Therefore, she’s looking for someone who can provide her food and shelter. In this day and age, a “provider” is a man who is successful in his career, because he can afford to give a women food and shelter. So this is why women are more attracted to men who look successful. Also, as a side note, men are attracted to women who look young, because therefore they look fertile, and men are instinctively attracted to women who will make a family for them.

That being said, if women are attracted to males who look successful, why do all these guys walk around with beards? Maybe it’s just my personal opinion that beards don’t make a man look successful. I guess I’m just curious, are these bearded men in serious, long-term relationships?