My boyfriend has difficulty giving me details. And this makes it soo difficult if he is planning something for the both of us. He often leaves out details which he deems insignificant, yet they make all the different to me.
For example, he told me that his friend Jake is visiting from out of town. So I said, oh hey, a bunch of our friends are getting together for drinks on Saturday night, so invite him to join. Then my boyfriend invites Jake (and Jake’s wife). See, before the invitation was put out there, my boyfriend neglected to tell me that Jake’s wife was also in town. So now the two of them are invited to drinks on Saturday. Which isn’t a big deal, but it does change things right? If one person shows up and doesn’t know anyone else, then that one person is forced to engage with others and join in the conversation. But if a couple comes, who don’t know anyone else, they are more likely to talk to each other and not engage. The dynamic is different. Am I crazy?
The other issue is when my boyfriend says he talks about me to his boss or our mutual friends. He’ll tell me the vague idea about what he said, but then later I’ll find out a detail that he told someone about me, which I didn’t know they knew.
I’m writing this now thinking maybe I’m overreacting and controlling? It can’t be just me. Women like to know and need to know more details than men.
..Well according to this website